Modern teenagers prefer to celebrate birthdays not at home with dad and mom, but with friends somewhere in a cafe or, quite possibly, in someone's rented apartment. Teenagers need freedom, albeit imaginary, but if you decide to lure your growing child home on his birthday, you will have to sweat.
Instructions
Step 1
First, carry out preliminary educational work, prepare the person for the thought that you would like to celebrate his birthday at home. Of course, teenagers are different, many will gladly agree to this. But if your child is categorically against it, try to convince him that everything will work out, that even if there is a dad, mom and a dog in the apartment (or maybe a grandmother will come), his holiday can be held brilliantly. With your own hand, invite your teen's friends to your party and promise the birthday boy that if something goes wrong, he can spend his birthday as he pleases.
Step 2
Celebrating at home is always a big responsibility. If you decide to spend your son or daughter's birthday at home, be prepared for an unexpected turn of events and for a host of consequences, not always favorable. The apartment needs to be furnished so that your many restless guests are free. Take away anything they can break or smash. Bring your birthday person too, ask him what kind of holiday format he would choose, how he wants to see his birthday. Be attentive to his wishes so that he does not have the feeling that you are arranging the holiday for yourself and not for him.
Step 3
Pay special attention to the wishes of the teenager when you begin to decorate an apartment or house for the holiday. A son or daughter is already developing a taste, and your young birthday boy probably won't want the sight of your apartment to disgrace him in the eyes of his peers. The younger generation has their own tastes, which you may not know about. Suddenly your child does not want you to hang his baby photos on all the walls, where he is without panties: no matter how cute these photos seem to you, they can only offend and humiliate your child in the eyes of his friends.
Step 4
Involve the birthday person in drawing up a holiday plan. What contests does he want to arrange? What games does he know? Let your child decide what entertainment he will prepare for his friends, because no one knows them as well as he does, and you have no idea what they like. Suppose, if anything, he turns to you for the material at hand, asks permission, can he use a computer for the evening (if he does not yet have his laptop). Give him free rein, and he will quickly figure out what his birthday will be at home.
Step 5
When the fun begins, limit your time in front of your guests. Remember, teenagers are no longer children. When children are young, their birthday is a common holiday. As they grow up, birthday becomes their own celebration. Get used to the idea that your child is gradually starting to move away from you, and give him some freedom. Stay at a distance but within reach. For example, set aside one room for the celebration, and yourself settle in another, or go to your neighbors, sometimes visiting and checking if everything is in order in the house. Let the teenager see that he is not yet very big, that for now he needs to report to adults.
