Childhood is a happy time, the whole world seems huge and amazing, every day is filled with new discoveries and achievements. The closest people are parents, when they are close - this is happiness and nothing else is needed. But time is relentless, childhood ends, life is filled with new acquaintances, friends, sometimes there is no time left to communicate with parents, and you imperceptibly move away from each other. How to communicate and spend time with loved ones in such a way that the concept of a family is not determined only by common household issues and blood ties, but warmth and trust remain for many years?
Instructions
Step 1
Chat every day. If you do not live together, call up. Don't limit yourself to a standard set of phrases. Get interested, ask questions, tell about yourself. Parents need to feel that you need them. Twenty minutes a day will not significantly affect your busy schedule, but the warmth and feeling of family unity will help keep it. Be aware of all matters, offer all possible help. Remember, it often happens that it is simply uncomfortable for parents to ask, so as not to impose and interfere with your life. Healthy selfishness is good, but it is not the same as formal indifference. Try not to upset, talk only about those problems that, in the opinion of the older generation, will definitely not look like a problem of a universal scale. Be patient. Sometimes it is difficult to listen to a story that has been heard repeatedly in the fifth round. So tempting to point out this or transparently hint that it was somewhere. What can you do, we are all not getting younger, but before interrupting the conversation, remember that older people are much more susceptible. What seems to you to be an everyday moment can turn into a tragedy for them. There is a saying: "what is old, what is small." When you were little, your parents showed angelic patience. Just think about how many sleepless nights your mother spent with you when you arrived as an infant or when you were sick. Now that you've matured, your parents need you more than you need them. Life is arranged in such a way that sooner or later we all change places.
Step 2
Holidays and important dates. Each family has its own important dates, but the New Year and birthday are perhaps the two most important events of the year, which are celebrated by absolutely everyone. Do not forget about your parents' birthdays and, if possible, try to come on that day. Postpone all urgent, and not so, matters and pay attention to the people closest to you. No wonder they say: "a good spoon for dinner." Sometimes it seems that if you forget to congratulate on this day (wrapped up at work) and call the next morning, nothing terrible will happen. It will happen - this is an indicator of interest, the place that a person occupies in life. We do not forget to congratulate our “beloved” clients, some even put a reminder in their e-mail. And this is native blood, do you feel the difference? New Year is a family holiday. Starting from a certain age, we start celebrating it less and less within the walls of our home. But in vain. Nobody knows how long each of us has. This celebration emotionally unites the family at the same table. Chimes, champagne, wishes for happiness - these are the little things that make up life. You can meet with friends the next day or after 00 hours. Traditions must be followed. A separate topic is your own birthday. It is generally accepted that this is a holiday for those born on this day. However, no less a holiday for the parents of the birthday man, because it was thanks to them that a person was born. Try to visit your father's house on this day, spend some time with your family. They will be pleased, and so will you. And do not forget to congratulate mom separately, because of all those present, she is the only one who remembers how it was.
Step 3
Joint leisure. Theater, cinema, barbecue, walking together or shopping - whatever. The main thing is to keep the points of contact. Shared affairs, interests and memories unite and maintain trust. Make a promise to yourself to get your whole family together at least once a month. Take a camera, let the memories be preserved not only in memory, but also in the form of slides that can be reviewed and shown to friends. It is important for parents to know that "chicks that have fluttered out of the nest" do not forget about their roots. If you have children of your own, it will be doubly useful for them. Little people are very receptive. Observing the relationship of their parents with grandparents - they take an example and when they grow up, they will do the same in relation to you.
Step 4
Try not to argue. The problem of fathers and children has always been relevant. Different upbringing, worldview, beliefs imposed by society. Sometimes, listening to the older generation, it seems that we are from different planets, but do not rush to contradict. Each person is a hostage of his time. You can give advice, discuss, but to question the competence and rationality of a person twice as old is not only not logical, but also indecent. Their youth passed at that time, it is not a fact that in twenty years our children will not tell us that we, it turns out, do not understand anything in life. Loyalty and respect are essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. Our parents lived their lives, raised us - it cannot be that they did not understand anything. Let's be fair to those we love.
